Brought to you by the Every Dollar app. Start budgeting for free today. My wife and I moved to Canada a year ago. We didn't pay rent for the first six months and bring home seven grand a month. We made an agreement to separate our finances and my responsibility was to save money for a new car. I didn't pay attention to my expenses and saved

nothing. I lied to my wife about the amount I had saved and pretended everything was okay.

After I started listening to your show, I've decided to tell her the truth. I feel like I've

totally destroyed her trust in me and our future. How can I save my marriage and get trust back?

I usually tell people that your feelings don't tell you the truth. But in this case, Adam, your feelings are telling you the truth.

You did destroy her trust in you and her trust in your future. 100% you did.

George, this whole situation is a mess.

Well, started with we made an agreement to separate our finances.

No, it started with we moved to Canada.

That's true.

I wasn't going to go there.

I love my friends in Canada.

I know, I do too.

Sweet people.

All right, so we moved to Canada, and we didn't pay rent for the first six months. And they make seven grand a month.

And they said, all right, you do you, I do me.

Here's my job.

I'm going to save up for the new car.

You go do this.

And then he didn't do any of it.

Which is one reason we tell people to combine finances because it creates trust and accountability and transparency and unity.

You know, all the things that make a marriage great but instead he went you know i got i got i got it and then didn't and then had a shame

...