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Thank you, Dr. Lord, for taking my call. Thank you. What can I do for you?

Well, I'm having trouble with forgiveness and trust issues. I'm married a very long time for kids.

I found out almost three years ago my wife was having a affair for two years with this person.

I found out. She's got lucky and found out and we've been working through it ever since.

What do you mean working? Whoa, whoa, what is working through me? What is that?

It means we. Yeah, it means we went to counseling. We did the classes.

Kind of one of the famous couples classes. I've been the counselor. She's been the counselors. We've been we continue to go.

Okay, I hear process, but I don't understand what it is you're working through. She lived a double life for two years.

It would have gone on much longer had you not found out. So I would you say you have a trust issue. That's not a trust issue.

She's not a trustworthy woman. Forgiving you have a bunch of kids and you don't want to lose your family.

So we can pretend we are forgiven somebody just to make sure we're there to raise our kids. I get that. But you called as though you're the one with the problem.

You don't have a psychological problem.

I'm married to one and I probably have one that's developed because of this because you know, I.

So to your point, keeping the family together is the most important thing.

But don't give me this. Okay, don't give me this forgiveness crap. It's crap.

I don't have it. I haven't done it. No, do I trust her?

There's no reason to forgive. She is not really taken responsibility.

You've gone through the legwork of seminars and some therapy and all of that and you know what you're married to.

So let's not play the game of trust and forgiveness. What you're trying to do is raise your kids.

So be honest about that with yourself and stop giving yourself aggravation.

I'm a bad person. I'm not forgiving. I'm a bad person. I'm not trusting. No, you'd be an idiot to trust this woman.

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