this is the ramsie call of the day part of the ramsay network let's go to megan who joins us

in atlanta georgia megan how can we help hi um thank you so much for taking my call um i just

i'm a recent um graduate i just got my master's degree,

and I'll be working for the first time pretty soon, and I just wanted to know how to go about

establishing financial boundaries with my parents.

Uh-oh. So the question here, George, tells me that you feel like there aren't some healthy boundaries now. They're crossing some lives. I'm just curious, what is the source of this?

What are you concerned about as maybe not being a boundary? What's going on? Tell us a little bit more.

So I had the gracious displeasure my last year of grad school living with a family member.

And they didn't charge me at all. And they even opened up saying like, hey, we get you're just starting out, you know, like you can stay with this longer.

I definitely had planned on, you know, giving like a monetary gift monthly, even though it's not required.

However, my dad is kind of like very just expectant of like how much are you going to give.

And I kind of was like, oh, I think that's for me and that family member to discuss.

So he's not involved in this in the actual transaction.

It's not his place.

He's not, he's just gone, well, you should be paying him?

He, well, I had already established that I am, but I guess he's kind of just like

insistent on knowing how much I would be paying them and like creating like that number for me

instead of me and that family member talking to ourselves. And what has your response

been to him when he's digging? I told him, you know, that I'll talk to it with the family

member and he definitely wasn't happy about it. He said, you know, I, as my father, I shouldn't keep information like that. I'm being secretive.

So I just want to go about like, you know, I do love my dad and everything, but I do think it's time for me as an adult to like, you know, be on my own.

And so just trying to find out like balance.

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