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Flying Free

How Do I Make an Exit Plan? [136]

Flying Free

Natalie Hoffman

Emotional, Spiritual, Narcissism, Self-improvement, Marriage, Abuse, Religion & Spirituality, Christian, Divorce, Christianity, Education

5.01.1K Ratings

🗓️ 14 September 2021

⏱️ 29 minutes

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Summary

Getting out of an abusive marriage can seem impossible. Especially when it comes to the money aspect. As in...where will you get it? How will you reenter (or start in) the work force? How are you going to add MORE to your already overflowing plate? And those emotions. The big ones that feel like a thick sludge up to your hips or a pile of wet blankets on top of you or a deep, aching hollow in your chest. How do you deal with those? Dear one, it's not easy, but it is simple. I’ve traveled this way before—alone and with others. So let me share my road map. This episode paves a path to: • The proof that knowing all the “hows” (as in, how in the heck is all this going to work out) isn't necessary • What learning to drive has to do with all of this • Why I don't tell survivors what to do while still giving them precise, tried-and-true advice • A way to OWN your valid, real, big emotions instead of being overwhelmed by them • How your healing ignites all the practical things you haven’t figured out Listen or download the transcript at flyingfreenow.com/136 FREE: I'll send you the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Just hop on my mailing list at flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download. (I will NEVER spam you or sell your information.) Desperate for real help and safe people who understand what you're going through? Find out about my online education and support program for women of faith at joinflyingfree.com And, if you are an already divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, have amazing relationships, build a business or career, or even find a good man - check out joinflyinghigher.com

Transcript

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0:00.0

Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free

0:10.2

podcast, a support resource for women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden

0:16.6

emotional and spiritual abuse.

0:21.6

Welcome to episode 136 of the Flying Free Podcast. Today I'm going to answer a couple

0:28.1

of listener questions so let's just dive in.

0:32.0

How does somebody break free when they do not have any job skills? I have two

0:40.9

kids of special needs. I have exhausted all avenues.

0:44.0

Two months ago I finally decided that I was going to file for divorce.

0:48.0

Call a lawyer, she got back to me four weeks later, and she said I need an exit plan 18 years in this marriage

0:57.6

to the same man I was married to before but I had a career at a job, but now I have more kids, more responsibilities,

1:06.3

two special needs, 18 years I've been home.

1:09.4

What does a person do job-wise? How do you

1:15.0

you break free when you are nothing do you just break free and hope God will take care of you I am such a planning person this is hard and I'm about ready to do that. You just hope that

1:25.0

God will take care of you. What do people do in my situation where they're trapped?

1:31.1

I feel like I have a chain around my ankle and I can't get out.

1:35.4

There's no doorways, there's no avenues. It's going to be hard, but staying is even harder.

1:45.0

So I'm ready to break free, but I need an excellent plan.

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What do women like me do?

1:52.0

Thank you for your question.

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Getting out is very difficult on many levels and that's why many people stay.

2:01.0

It requires you to go through a much worse and often prolonged

2:06.4

intense pain before you actually experience any relief. And that just feels like too much, logistically and emotionally for a lot of people.

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