Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now.com, and you're listening to the

Flying Free Podcast, a support resource for Women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden

emotional and spiritual abuse.

Welcome to episode 11 of the Flying Free Podcast. Today it's just me and so what I

decided to do is go back way back to 2017 and I found a Facebook live where people were asking questions on

Facebook and I was answering those questions and I was reading through them and

realize they're so relevant for today and I decided that I was going to kind of do a repeat of

that here on the Flying Free Podcast for you. So basically this is going to be a

question answer session and let's get started. The first question is, why do you think longtime church friends refuse to help when the wife

starts telling the truth? And instead of helping her, they shun her and help the abusive husband instead.

The next question, which was related, is why does the church refuse to acknowledge that this

is a serious problem and take real steps to address it and the third

related question is why is there no church discipline? Okay so my answer to the

first question is this.

There are two different worldviews at play here.

In one worldview, we have women who are relegated

to an underling status, created only to serve under a man, and not a whole lot more.

In that worldview, it isn't proper for a woman to protest her lot in life. Men are innately deserving of royal treatment

from their woman and a married woman is viewed as the property or extension of

her husband. If the man is unhappy or cruel or rude or abusive, the issue lies with the woman.

She isn't doing her job to make him happy. If she were more submissive, happier, kept the home cleaner, kept the kids

quieter, read her husband's mind and never gave him any feedback, then maybe he'd be nicer to her.

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