I want her because she's hot, but there's no chemistry between us for us to kiss.

Well, attraction's not a choice.

And the reality is if there's no chemistry, if she's not easy to talk to, it's either there or it's not.

If it doesn't flow, then you should move on.

But if you're out on a date, because I've had this experience, I wrote about one in particular in my book,

where I really didn't see any kind of signs that she was attracted.

I was just thinking she was really hot.

She was a former model.

So I took her to her front door and I was like, I'm going to go for the kiss anyways. Maybe she'll kiss me back. Maybe I'll get the cheek. Either way I'll know. I won't wonder about it because I'm just curious. And I go and I kiss her and she like sucks the tongue out of the back of my throat. And then she says, hey, you want to come upstairs so I said sure so we went upstairs

and I was surprised in that particular one and that's why it's always a good rule of thumb

even if you're if you're on a date and you're unsure maybe she's shy maybe she's overwhelmed

maybe she's really introverted more than than you expect, she's nervous,

you don't know. If you go to kiss her and she sucks the tongue out of the back of your throat,

then it's on. You miss every shot you don't take.

Exactly. You miss 100% of the pitches you don't swing at.

Shoot your shot.

Yeah, because I feel like there could be really attractive guys who are like muscular, manly beard and all.

And then you talk to them, it's just like nothing's clicking.

It's just like you look good, but nothing's like working for me.

You're not enjoying the conversation. The weirdest thing ever. Or like you are like they're cool, but it's like working for me you're not enjoying the conversation the weirdest thing ever

or like you are like they're cool but it's just like there's nothing more to your looks

no yeah definitely if it's the first time and they make it apparent that they're not interested

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