How Do I Heal My Mother Wounds? (with Larinda)

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

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Christianity, Talk Radio, Default, Religion & Spirituality

4.8 • 808 Ratings

🗓️ 25 August 2025

⏱️ 35 minutes

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I'm joined by DFCN counselor, Larinda, as we tag-team a question from Lisa from Ohio who asks: I'm an overachiever. I believe it stems from my past and particularly my mother wounds. I never felt "good enough" for my mom, who was a perfectionist. She's no longer alive, but some of these past experiences still impact me today. How do I deal with my deep mother wounds, even though my mom is no longer here? We do a deep dive into her question, and specifically what to do with mother (and/or father wounds) and how to actually begin to heal. Tune in to listen to the counselors process this important question! Book a session with Larinda Horton, M.A., LPC, today! You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	A lot of my clients actually when we're talking about reparenting is I have them find a picture of themselves when they were younger, a picture that maybe speaks to them of a certain time period or maybe they're experiencing emotion, a certain emotion that they want to remember.
0:22.8	And I have them put it on their bathroom mirror, and I have them talk to themselves,
0:27.6	their younger self in the morning as they're getting ready, and then right before they go to
0:32.3	bed. And I have them to share with their younger self, the wisdom that they have now as their adult self,
0:38.5	and to speak God's truth to their younger self and remind them that they are loved and they are
0:44.9	chosen and they are called by name and that they are never alone and that he is with them always.
0:52.6	And just speak those truths, those things that you didn't hear as a child.
1:02.4	Are you ready to talk to me? My name is Deborah Felata and I'm a licensed professional counselor,
1:08.7	national speaker, and author. Through my blog, books, and podcast,
1:12.6	I have the privilege of helping millions of people get healthy mentally, emotionally,
1:17.9	spiritually, and relationally. The purpose of this podcast is to have on-air, authentic,
1:24.4	counseling-style sessions where we talk about how people are really doing and give my
1:29.8	guests and callers an opportunity to talk to me as a licensed professional counselor. Each of
1:35.9	these episodes is meant to show you that we are all on the journey of healing, mentally,
1:41.5	emotionally, spiritually and relationally, together.
1:45.8	None of us are immune to the challenges and struggles of life, but we don't have to walk
1:52.5	this path alone.
1:54.2	I'm so proud and honored to be having these conversations with men and women who are
1:59.4	courageously paving the way for open and honest
2:02.0	conversations about their personal journey of healing. So if you're ready, let's talk.
2:10.1	So we're doing something a little different over the next few weeks called the Ask a
2:14.3	counselor series. As you know, I recently started the Deborah Felita
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