Question 127. How to get over someone when you still want them, but no, it won't work.

Well, in anything in life, personal, professional, you've got to focus on your outcome. So as a man,

you've got to purpose and a mission. That's your primary thing that you always got to take care of,

whether life is going great or not, or it sucks, or you're winning. It winning doesn't matter you always got to grind on your purpose and your mission life is your

primary thing your secondary mission or purpose if you will is what's your outcome for your

personal life if you know it's not going to work with the girl the problem is is that when we

want reality to be other than it is, we're going to

suffer. So it's understandable because most people for long-term relationships when there's a

breakup typically take about a year and a half for all the emotional charges gone and they're

completely over it. That's on average. That's what it takes for most people. And the real problem that you

struggle with is that you're in love with the idea of who you thought she was or who you wanted

her to be and she, for whatever reason, couldn't live up to it. Maybe she had no integrity. She lied.

She cheated. Whatever. Whatever happens to me. Maybe he's decided she belongs to streets.

So at the end of the day, your outcome is you want a good, happy, healthy relationship with somebody who's easygoing, easily along with, communicates well, tells you what she wants, what she needs, can explain things explicitly in a way that's easy to understand. She is more teammate

focus. She'll seek to resolve your differences. But at the end of the day, she'll defer to your

masculinity, your decisions, only if she trusts you and you handle your business like you're supposed to.

So if your ex can't live up to the fantasy of what you want, you have to focus on that.

And so you need other prospects even though you don't feel like it.

And that's in anything in life, you're going to have days.

You get up and you don't feel like working, but there's stuff that's got to get done.

So you got to do it. Just like there'll get up and you don't feel like working, but there's stuff that's got to get done, so you got to do it.

Just like there'll be days where you don't feel like getting back in the world of dating again,

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