On this podcast, we talk a lot about joy, and of course, that means that we feel a lot

of necessary questions about joylessness.

We've also talked in the past about how husbands take the leading role in seeking to grow

the joy of their own homes.

I'm thinking back to APJ 255, I believe it is, Dad's role in home making one of my favorites

in the history of this podcast, APJ 255, Dad's role in home making.

But what about when this task seems especially impossible?

It's a question from an anonymous man who writes this, Hello Pastor John, I praise God

for your ministry.

Thank you for staying in the course and serving the church so well for so long.

I would love your advice for my marriage.

My wife and I have been married for nearly 18 years and have three young children.

By her own admission, my wife is an EOR type personality.

There are seasons where her gloominess and maybe borderline depression persists and has

a significant impact on the joy in our home.

I feel helpless to help.

When I try to address the issue with her, she ends up feeling like a failure and sinks

even lower.

What can I do to help her, Pastor John?

I'm committed to our marriage covenant and desire that she and our family flourish.

As I thought and prayed over this situation and I know several marriages like this, long

marriages like this, marriages where there's been hospitalization over and over again for

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