Hey, it is Antonia and Joel, quick note before we start the show today.

In this podcast, we're talking about trauma and we reference some early childhood trauma,

including subjects around violence, sexual assault. So we just want to give you a bit of heads up

if you're still working through that and need a gentle context to be able to consume information

around this topic. We just want to let you know.

Hi, welcome back to the Personality Hacker podcast. My name is Joel Mark Whit.

And I'm Antonia Dodge. This week we're once again joined by our guest host Bruce Music

from loveatfirstfight.com. Hi, Bruce.

Hey, hi Joel. How's it going?

Good. Glad to have you here this week.

Glad to be here.

So last time you were on the podcast, Bruce, we talked a lot about the three phases of a relationship.

We talked about the romance stage, the honeymoon period.

We talked about the next phase, which is a power struggle.

And then we talked a little bit about mature love and what all of those phases mean.

But as we've been fleeing out more and more conversations with you,

we've noticed, particularly since you do a lot of work with attachment styles and attachment

theory, that this subject of trauma keeps getting brought up in conversations over and over.

And how trauma impacts our ability to engage with our partners.

So I thought in this podcast, we could just filay out this idea a little bit more.

And you had actually introduced us to this concept called aces when it comes to trauma and how it's

how trauma is sort of a predictor in your relationships in your life.

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