How can I take control from being easily triggered by having a bad temper?

That's what we call exercising emotional self-control.

We all have the ability to do that, but the question is, are we willing to exercise self-control

to not blow up?

And the reason I say everybody's got this capability

is that everybody has either been in a heated argument or been observing a heated argument, maybe

between your parents or family members, and then the phone rings, and they're like, hey, how are you?

Oh, everything's great. Oh, it's so great to hear from you. And then they hang the phone up,

and they go right back to arguing and being at each other's throat.

So it really is a conscious choice.

And as you get older, you got to learn to control your temper.

You can choose to be a jack in the box and lose your shit.

Or you can choose to remain calm. And because at the end of the day behind anger

is all behind fear is always anger and typically behind you know somebody's angry about something it's

we have two primary fears fear that we're not enough in other words we don't have what it takes

to accomplish what we want or have what we want or fear that we won't be loved and accepted by our

friends family or our peer group and that's typically what's driving us and when it comes to relationships

the obviously obvious thing is is that people are afraid that they won't be loved and so they get

fearful and they get angry and they blow up and they have a jack-knit-box.

I did a video newsletter this morning where guys been with his girlfriend eight months.

And he's been complaining because he's calling and texting her more and he's making the effort and she's not and he's only read my book

3% man twice and so what happens is he gets upset and he complains to her and he whines to her

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