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Brian, welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Laura. Thank you for taking my call. You're very welcome. How can I help?

Okay. I am happily married for 22 years. We have three

children that are doing great. We're 48 years old. About a year ago, my wife started, or

parapherominoffals began. And it has changed our relationship.

And she's experienced symptoms like hot flashes and tossing and turning to sleep

and feeling itchy in her own skin and things of that nature.

But things like maybe a little more impatient than normal.

But what the change to our relationship is that we have never had before is a

disinterest from her end of intimacy.

It has almost completely vanished. And so it's been sort of jarring in a way to,

because we have such a great marriage overall. Just I'm very happy with everything. And so what

would maybe be one to two times a week is now one to two times per month.

And if I would initiate, I don't know, 60 or 70% of the time normally prior to, now it's 100% of the time.

And I don't want her to do something she doesn't want to do.

And the feeling for me has been, I felt, rejected 70 or 80% of the time.

So I've tried to have a lot of grace and patience.

I've read things online about,

you know, be patient, be supportive. And I want to do all of those things. I love or respect

her tremendously. But it's also been sort of hard. And I've tried to even like test, like I will

initiate and she'll kind of just say she's not it doesn't feel like it

doesn't feel great or it's maybe not maybe tomorrow kind of thing and so i'll try to say okay

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