How Can I Light My Wife's Fire?

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4.4 • 6K Ratings

🗓️ 20 June 2025

⏱️ 9 minutes

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Bryan's perimenopausal wife has lost her interest in sex. What can he do to help rekindle some passion? Call 1-800-DR-LAURA / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment at DrLaura.com

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0:00.0	Thanks for listening to my call of the day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from 2 to 5 p.m. Eastern Time on Sirius XM Triumph 11.
0:11.2	Brian, welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Laura. Thank you for taking my call. You're very welcome. How can I help?
0:19.2	Okay. I am happily married for 22 years. We have three
0:24.8	children that are doing great. We're 48 years old. About a year ago, my wife started, or
0:33.6	parapherominoffals began. And it has changed our relationship.
0:41.5	And she's experienced symptoms like hot flashes and tossing and turning to sleep
0:47.4	and feeling itchy in her own skin and things of that nature.
0:50.5	But things like maybe a little more impatient than normal.
0:55.7	But what the change to our relationship is that we have never had before is a
1:04.8	disinterest from her end of intimacy.
1:07.9	It has almost completely vanished. And so it's been sort of jarring in a way to,
1:16.6	because we have such a great marriage overall. Just I'm very happy with everything. And so what
1:24.8	would maybe be one to two times a week is now one to two times per month.
1:32.1	And if I would initiate, I don't know, 60 or 70% of the time normally prior to, now it's 100% of the time.
1:42.8	And I don't want her to do something she doesn't want to do.
1:49.2	And the feeling for me has been, I felt, rejected 70 or 80% of the time.
1:57.1	So I've tried to have a lot of grace and patience.
2:00.2	I've read things online about,
2:03.2	you know, be patient, be supportive. And I want to do all of those things. I love or respect
2:07.9	her tremendously. But it's also been sort of hard. And I've tried to even like test, like I will
2:14.6	initiate and she'll kind of just say she's not it doesn't feel like it
2:20.2	doesn't feel great or it's maybe not maybe tomorrow kind of thing and so i'll try to say okay
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