Well, it's the polar opposite of Christ, and it's the polar opposite of the holy life,

selfishness.

Selfishness, Spurgeon once said, is as foreign to Christianity as darkness to light.

The darkness of self-centeredness is the opposite of Christ, his gospel, and it undermines

every aim in the Christian life, self-defeating selfishness is still in us.

We want to shed it.

We must fight it, and that leads to today's email, Pastor John, I need your help in overcoming

my selfishness.

I'm a 17-year-old male, people around me, people I love, and people who love me, especially

my girlfriend, keep saying that I am selfish, I want to become self-less.

The problem keeps coming back when I think I'm doing a good job being selfless.

I'm sure I'm unwilling and just don't want to admit it.

How can I learn to become a selfless young man?

Well, not knowing you personally makes it a little bit awkward to give specific counsel,

so I think the first thing I really should say is that it would be probably wise for you

to seek out a mature Christian outside that circle that you're talking about, perhaps

your pastor or youth leader, and share with them some of the specifics of what people

are saying that puzzle you and get their insight into your heart as they know you personally.

Keep in mind that the Apostle Paul said, let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching

and admonishing one another in all wisdom.

That's what you want.

You want someone who's rich in biblical wisdom, who is full of the word of Christ, who can

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