And now it's time to Ask the Shrink.

Heyo, welcome to this bonus episode of Ask the Shrink.

This one is a great question about dating relationships and what's possible for you.

It comes from Tasha, and she says, I read your book, The Solution of Social Anxiety,

and I'm doing a social anxiety exposure hierarchy. Awesome. Well done, Tasha. It's working very well so

far. And I'm very grateful that there are people like you that care about something so important

and put really helpful information out there.

Awesome. Thank you, Tasha. You are most welcome. My question is that I would like to find someone

to get married to. And I think, what are the odds of someone who has been without social connections

for a long time, has no relationship experience, doesn't have a lot without social connections for a long time,

has no relationship experience, doesn't have a lot of social connections,

feels different, etc. How is someone with those odds,

not just finding someone compatible, but actually getting the best relationship for me,

like the ideal result? It's part doubt, and I also think it may be part intuition, a logistical question of, I'm here now, what is missing for me to get

there? This dream is very important to me. It would be great to hear from you, and I am

interested in what you might have to say.

I would be very grateful for an answer. Thank you. Okay, there is a lot of good stuff here.

Let's see if we can break it down and help you feel more, well, I was going to say hopeful,

which is good, but also we want to get you into more action.

Because hopefulness is great, but it's also temporary because then it starts to, you know, has a short half-life.

And it starts to bleed away.

We got to get action and we got to get progress.

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