Today we have a marriage question on the table and it's from a listener named Mary, Hello

Pastor John.

I know that submission is the requirement of the wife and I've been working hard lately

to hold my tongue and agree with my husband.

Even when I have a different opinion, recently he bought a new car.

I felt in my gut that this was unwise.

I made one comment to him about it, but could see his mind was already made up.

So it went along with his decision and now it turns out that my gut instinct was right.

The car purchase was unwise.

We both know that now.

And now I feel especially responsible for not trying harder to convince him in the first

place.

Am I at fault for not speaking up?

I'd like to hear you address the concerns of a disagreeing wife who also wants to submit.

I think it's really crucial to step back with a question like this from the immediate question

like, am I at fault for not speaking up more when my husband was about to make a foolish

choice?

That's the question I'll get to it shortly.

But step back and put the question against the backdrop of three larger perspectives.

I'm always wanting to do this so that the discussion of complementarianism and manhood

and womanhood, male and female sexuality, relationships, roles are kept in the bigger biblical

picture out of which flow, a kind of ethos and spirit, which is always more important

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