Welcome to the Girl on Top Shalin XO podcast. I'm your host Shalin Lester and you might know me from my YouTube channel, where I analyze celebrity relationships and scandals for the lessons we can take into our own lives. But here on the podcast, I answer the best questions you submitted over the past week.

Welcome back to the podcast, Shaligators. This week, we're going to talk to one of you guys

who is having a problem so many of us deal with, which is this screeching halt that happens

when we get in a relationship, when the pursuit seems to stop. Now, you meet a guy,

it's all wonderful, the courtship is great, but then you become exclusive and you settle into,

I don't know, some sort of domestic routine. And it's like all that courtship and the getting to

know you phase just dries up. And I experience this as a

single chickadee. It seems like when you sleep with someone. And I know some of you guys experience

this when you're officially boyfriend, girlfriend, or maybe it's when you get engaged, or maybe when

you move in together. But there usually seems to be some sort of down shifts. So we're going to

break it down and talk about how to get

that sort of pursuant spark back in your relationship. But before we break it all down, I want to

remind you guys, we are heading to Mexico. We have our Shalogator getaway to Isla Holbos. It's a tiny

little beautiful white sand beach, car-free island just north of Cancun. We are going August 19th through 23rd, taking 20 shalligators. Well, we have, I think, six spaces left. I would love to have you join me. We're bringing our own dedicated photographer. We're doing things like snorkeling and kayaking and hiking. I mean, like, light hiking. You know, I'm, you know, I'm an indoor cat.

We are going to be taking pictures, doing workshops, focusing on sisterhood, positivity.

Come solo. Everyone who comes on these trips flies solo, like no one's bringing their bestie. The

whole point is to meet new friends. And truly, it is crazy how much everyone bonds. I mean, I still am on group chats

with everyone we've been on trips with. I love you guys. I'm obsessed with you. So please come and

be my new best friend because I can never have too many besties and I'm excited to meet 20 more.

So go ahead and click the link down in the bio. Okay, let's get started. So we have a Shalegator,

and she reached out to me because she's got a question. And by the way, if you guys have something

you need help with, feel free to head to my website, shallenlester.com, or click the link down in

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