Hosting a Sex Party (w/ Big Dipper)
Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer
Headgum & Nicole Byer
4.8 • 15.6K Ratings
🗓️ 12 September 2025
⏱️ 81 minutes
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Summary
Rapper and friend Big Dipper (host of Sloppy Seconds) returns to the pod! He and Nicole dive into how he became a bear, the many “gaybels” that shape queer dating culture, and the highs and lows of Bear Week and pig events, from the wild parties to the moments that left him questioning everything. Dipper unpacks the twink vs. bear dynamic and explains compersion - the joy of watching your partner get pleasure from someone else.
He also shares the wild story of a influencer showing up to his sex party to shoot content, why he won’t let Nicole work his gay orgy, and together they ask the important question: are we having a gay recession?
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| 0:00.0 | Want to watch this episode? Catch the full video on YouTube. Just hit the link in the episode description. |
| 0:07.0 | This is a headgum podcast. Okay, y'all, so you've seen the Tinder swindler on Netflix, right? That man was flying private saying, I love you to-dates in, and scamming out of tens of thousands of dollars like it was nothing. |
| 0:21.8 | Over 50 million people watched that doc, but what happened after the credits rolled? |
| 0:26.6 | Two of the women at the center of the story, and let me be clear, these are survivors, and |
| 0:32.3 | they're finally telling the whole truth. |
| 0:35.4 | Pernelia Solholm and Cecilia Faihoi have turned their story into |
| 0:40.4 | something powerful. Their new audiobook is called Swindled Never After. It's part memoir, part |
| 0:47.7 | warning, part guide, and it hits way harder than the documentary. They talk about all the |
| 0:53.4 | emotional wreckage, the financial fallout, |
| 0:56.0 | the gaslighting, and what it really took to reclaim their lives. And they don't just vent. They |
| 1:01.7 | give you actual tools to spot the red flags. Trust your gut and protect your peace. If you've |
| 1:08.6 | ever trusted the wrong person swiped on the wrong match or had someone say, |
| 1:13.6 | Babe, I pay you back next week. |
| 1:16.0 | Mm-hmm. |
| 1:16.7 | Yeah, this is for you. |
| 1:18.7 | Swindled, never after. |
| 1:20.5 | The audiobook is out now. |
| 1:22.2 | Go listen. |
| 1:23.2 | Stay sharp. |
| 1:24.4 | Protect your piece. |
| 1:25.5 | And maybe keep that wallet closed. |
| 1:30.6 | Mm, fall is finally here. |
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