Hope in Healing - Working w/Couples Through Betrayal, Pornography and Shame w/Sam Tielemans LMFT

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5 • 643 Ratings

🗓️ 6 April 2022

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Summary

Tony welcomes therapist and friend Sam Tielemans, LMFT, to the Virtual Couch. They cover topics from shame's role in furthering addictive behaviors to why working with your spouse can ultimately be a powerful way to enhance recovery. They tackle the challenging issue of pornography, is it an addiction or does that matter when it comes to recovery? They challenge the "once an addict, always an addict" dialogue often heard in the recovery world. And they give some new insight on working with betrayal trauma. You can find Sam at http://coupleshealing.org (http://coupleshealing.org)and subscribe to his podcast Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction. Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/magnetic (http://tonyoverbay.com/magnetic) to sign up for Tony’s “Magnetize Your Marriage” virtual workshop on April 7th. You’ll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. With the continuing "sheltering" rules spreading across the country, PLEASE do not think you can't continue or begin therapy now. http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) can put you quickly in touch with licensed mental health professionals who can meet through text, email, or videoconference often as soon as 24-48 hours. And if you use the link http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch), you will receive 10% off your first month of services. Please make your mental health a priority, http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch offers affordable counseling, and they even have sliding scale options if your budget is tight.You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com And visit http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com/) and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ (https://descript.com/?lmref=bSWcEQ)

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0:00.0	Hey, everybody, come on and take a seat on the virtual couch.
0:21.6	Hey everybody, welcome to episode 316 of the virtual couch.
0:25.3	I am your host, Tony Overbay.
0:26.6	I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified mindful habit coach, writer, speaker, husband, father, four,
0:31.0	ultramarathon runner, and creator of the Pathback and online pornography recovery program
0:34.9	that is helping people just become the very best versions
0:38.1	of themselves without needing to turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms. And the way you do that is
0:43.1	truly plugging up the holes in your relationships and your parenting and your faith and your
0:48.3	health and your career. And that's the stuff that we really work on. And sure, we help someone move
0:53.4	away from unhealthy coping mechanisms. If you want to know more, go to pathback we really work on. And sure, we help someone move away from unhealthy coping mechanisms.
0:55.2	If you want to know more, go to pathbackrecovery.com.
0:58.1	And I'm trying to get this out on time on a Tuesday, April 5th, and this Thursday, April 7th,
1:03.7	I'm doing a magnetic marriage workshop, how to magnetize your marriage.
1:08.9	And I'm going big on this one.
1:10.7	It is virtual. You can find out more
1:12.3	at tonyoverbay.com slash magnetic. And here's the premise. If there is anything that you feel is
1:19.1	even just a challenge in your relationship, if it's a struggle at times to communicate, or you feel
1:23.1	like it just could be better, that it doesn't mean that it's broken, that you are starting to head
1:27.0	toward divorce or anything like that. It's normal. We do not have the tools in our factory settings on how
1:33.8	to have the very best relationship or to show up as our very best self because of all the things
1:38.7	I talk about on my podcast so often are abandonment wounds, our wounds, and how we show up in our relationship
1:46.0	and our fear of invalidation and our need for external validation. And are you differentiated?
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