Thanks for listening to my call of the day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through

Friday from 2 to 5 p.m. Eastern Time on Sirius XM Triumph 11. Rebecca, welcome to the program.

Thank you, Dr. Laura. You're welcome. What can I help you with?

First of all, I'd like to say thank you for being on the air still.

I listened to you since my kids were little, and you taught me through a lot when they were infants.

So thank you.

But I'm calling now or wanting to talk to you because I have been married for 26 years. I have my kids are in college now.

My head, bottom line is I love my husband, but he is a habitual cheater,

has been almost through the entire marriage, whether it's just talking to other women,

going on dates and then me finding out later, and it's just talking to other women, going on dates, and then me finding out

later. And it's gone to the point where he told me pretty much he doesn't know if he's in

love with me anymore. And he... I do have a tiny question for you. I do have a tiny question for you.

It's kind of a tiny one. Love, to me,

is defined not by dependency, fears. It's defined by awe, admiration, and respect.

That's love.

The feeling that keeps some people in situations that may seem appalling to others is not love.

People can call it love, but that doesn't make it so. That's a kind of sad dependency,

a wishfulness, and stuff that isn't concrete or real. And as we all know anyway, if you want to

persist in saying you love him, then I would say love is not enough to have a

quality life with somebody. Clearly in this case, it doesn't warrant he doesn't respect you.

He's not caring about you. He's not thoughtful about you. He's abusive to you. And I wouldn't

say on the other side, the feeling and response is love.

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