Holding On to Love and Hope Through a Lifetime of Suffering

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4.6 • 6.3K Ratings

🗓️ 19 May 2026

⏱️ 16 minutes

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"Holding On to Love and Hope Through a Lifetime of Suffering" - Listen to my Morning Monologue: I’m sharing my take on pressing issues, enlightening research on human behavior, answering questions I get by email, and my favorite, most instructive interactions with callers. Everything you’ll hear is designed to help you become a better spouse, parent, family member, co-worker, friend, and human being. It’s the free therapy you need! Got a dilemma? Call 1-800-DR-LAURA / 1-800-375-2872 or make an appointment at DrLaura.com - Listen to The Dr. Laura Program daily on SiriusXM Triumph 123.

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0:00.0	Thank you for listening to my morning monologue.
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0:28.5	All right.
0:30.0	One of the situations that a lot of people do and suffer their entire lives is hanging on to the notion that mommy or
0:49.3	daddy is going to finally love them, sibling is going to finally love them, spouse is going to finally love them, and they're going to finally love them. Sibling is going to finally love them. Spouse is going to finally love them.
0:58.0	And they'll hang in there for abuse, neglect, abandonment, meanness. People hold on to hope, which is such a powerful word. Hope is such a powerful word.
1:16.6	Forget about it. I'd like you to dump it from your vocabulary. People hold on to the hope that an
1:24.2	abusive or mean loved one will change because they have a deep desire
1:31.6	for it to be a hundred and eighty percent different and it never is oh one thing that keeps people
1:43.6	hanging on is the intermittent positive reinforcement.
1:52.0	Abusive or mean people rarely act horribly 100% of the time.
2:00.2	They often give you breadcrums of love or kindness or apologies.
2:08.0	This unpredictability conditions your brain to focus in on those good moments and believe
2:15.5	that these moments are the true person.
2:20.3	Not the abuse mean, but this is the true person.
2:28.3	It sort of reminds me of Star Trek the next generation.
2:32.3	Without dialogue, I was in one of those when,
2:37.4	ah, doesn't matter which episode I was in. I didn't have a speaking thing. I had to walk
2:43.6	across the screen and they made me do it like four times. Anyway, I got to talk to the actors.
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