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It's Jenny Garth, and we are back for part two of my conversation with Samantha Boss, who is the boss when it comes to divorce coaching.

I love this whole business model that you've, it feels like you've created this space, this white space that everybody in the situation needs. And also it feels like you are on, you help the person feel like we're a team. I'm your biggest fan. I'm your cheerleader. And I'm also your quarterback. Let's do this. Here's what we're going to do. And everybody's case is different. And I think that's why I get so frustrated with certain lawyers is they want to use the same template on everybody. And nowadays, we have kids with severe medical issues. We got military. We got shift workers. We got people that want to homeschool. We got, you know, holistic and not wanting to do doctors. We got all kinds of people out there. Why are our parenting plans not custom

to our family? Why are we using a template from the state of Indiana? You know, the state of

California, we're going to use the same template that the last six families got dished out,

but all six families have different dynamics. That is the part that really blows my mind.

And I hope someday, someday soon, I can get in front of judges and lawyers and say, these have to be custom. These cannot be just boilerplate, stamp it. Oh, yep, use the guidelines from the state. No, it can't because kids are the ones that fall through the cracks when that happens. Yeah. Because this is really all about the kids. I mean, this isn't about, I know I've been stating, you know, me having to work with my ex, me having to work with. When I have to work with my ex, my kids get a different version of me that they don't want. My kids want the peaceful mom, the happy mom, the one that's not triggered, the one that doesn't feel threatened, the one that doesn't feel bothered. That's what my kids want. But if I have to continue to work with him and he does his high conflict bullshit on me, I'm going to always comply because I don't know boundaries yet. And then my kids are getting a bad version of me. So the kids are the ones that pay the price if your parenting plan is not good. They absolutely do. I think it's

really cool that your kids know the ins and outs of what you're talking about and they have also their

own experience of it, unfortunately. But it sounds like they, you know, it would be very cool if they

were on their way to helping other young people. I know they will. They're going to deny it right now. But when they come and do trainings with me, as soon as they get off, they're like, okay, I was like, how's that feel? They're like, first off, that was exhausting. But they're like, that feels so good to share because I know my story, even though they don't paint me as a rainbow unicorn mom,

you know, they're like, that story is going to help other moms not make the mistake you made. And I'm like, hell yeah, because I was a dysregulated mom those first eight years. I'll be honest. I was a screamer. I was a yeller. I was a go play with your brother, you know, like, because I had to focus on paperwork. You're pissed. Yeah. Yeah.

You know, and I wasn't attentive to them.

I was so distracted with bullshit that I was a shit mom. And I was just angry all the time or I'd go on a cleaning rampage. And they were just like walking on eggshells in my house. Now, all of us have had a shit ton of therapy together and separately. So we're all better. And I offered for them.

I'm like,

hey,

is it okay if I share your stories?

Absolutely.

I mean,

because they're healed through their therapy of like, yeah, that's our past. But if our past can help other people, share it. Let's do it. They love doing trainings. They love it. I would too. It's just helping somebody on sick when they need it so badly.

Okay, so I think that one of the things that I realized in my situation through my divorce

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