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When there's a problem going on with your daughter, no matter how old she is for 10, 15, if she's

angry or yelling or upset, a lot of us, dads. Our natural instinct is to withdraw, to go silent, to back away

until things quiet down. It's safer that way. I'm John Fuller along with Danny Werta and Dr Meg Meeker tells us

not to disappear during those tough times.

In fact, in this conversation with Jim Daly and me,

Dr Meeker is very clear that daughters need time and attention from dad

and that spending a little extra time with her can often make a big difference in a girl's behavior.

You know, Meg, men are prone to pursue careers. We get a lot of our

identity, our sense of self-worth out of what we do and sometimes we can sacrifice

too much in that regard for our careers and for climbing the ladder and

working the long hours and getting the the pats on the back at work at a great price

which is disconnection from our spouses, disconnection with our kids.

Speak to the dad that is going, that's me.

That is me and I'm in it right now and I have a 13 year old daughter and we're not doing well and we're not connecting and I'm home after dinner and but I'm trying to provide for it. I'm trying to do that Dr. Meaker. I mean speak to that dad that is in that spot.

Well first of all to realize that you have an enormous influence in her life and she needs you.

Your daughter doesn't want the stuff you give her. You want the stuff that you're earning. You want the bigger house. You want the third car. You want the

pool. She could care less about that. What she needs from you is your love and your time.

And I promise you, promise you, if you dial back the amount of time you're spending at work, you will never, ever regret it.

Because what you will see see flourish in your relationship

with your daughter is invaluable.

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