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slash parenting podcast. Does this sound familiar? You never let me do anything, and it's so unfair, and you just don't want me to have fun.

Those are things I've heard very recently in my home and maybe you have as well. If so the

odds are pretty good that you have a teenager. This is John Fuller along with

Danny Werta and I'm on my sixth teenager Danny.

Five of the kids have just grown up and they're fantastic adults.

I have a fantastic adult in training who at 15 pulls every card out does every

trick you can imagine throws everything at me he can because he's a teenager and it's very normal isn't it?

Yes yes it is you've earned your teenage strikes John.

Yeah there's you know the teenagers that they come with some fire and then some of them are very

compliant. So there's some that are very easy to raise as teens and then there's some that

are more difficult.

And what's the physiology happening here just real quick?

Well, there's changes in the brain and more the personality comes out and also

this is one mental illness really starts to show itself.

And we have to be real about this, that teens sometimes have been fine all the way until

puberty, and then puberty hits and the mental illness comes on, and all of a sudden you don't know how to handle this craziness that hits your home.

Okay so we have to be clear now not every teenager has a mental illness.

I mean a lot of kids... would venture to guess that yes that's very

a lot of kids just a part of you know part of the package of teens is there's drama right there is

There is there's some accountability there's crying at the drop of a hat there is

anger there are outbursts there are all sorts of unpredictable things that happen

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