Welcome to another episode of Relationship Theory. I'm your co-host Tom Billiou and I'm here with my lovely all-be-at-times crew

wife.

Because you doubted me. You doubted.

I did doubt him in all fairness. Yeah.

I can hear the crackling of the fires of the inferno of Hell by this.

All right. What is that?

All right. What's up? We're talking about growth mindset and fixed mindsets today.

Yeah. We're talking about relationships.

Can you or how can you help your partner develop a growth mindset?

Yeah. How can you?

And I was telling Michelle that this question gives me anxiety.

Why?

Because it's hard. Like I wouldn't want to be in that position.

And when I think back to when you and I were first in a relationship, neither of us knew what a growth mindset was,

if so what we kept talking about was growing together, growing together, growing together.

So that was like the loop that we were on.

But if we didn't already have that, like if that wasn't a part of it, like when I think about the people in my life who don't have a growth mindset,

and the thought of like really having to get them there is it's hard, man.

It's like the whole saying you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink.

Or Morpheus saying, I can only show you the door.

You have to walk through it.

And I'm very much of the Navine Jane camp that don't worry about leading horse to water, make them thirsty.

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