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The Documentary Podcast

Heart and Soul: How should I remember Mum in Islam?

The Documentary Podcast

BBC

Society & Culture, Documentary, Personal Journals

4.32.6K Ratings

🗓️ 12 July 2024

⏱️ 26 minutes

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Summary

The BBC's Rahila Bano, explains why her family decided to break with the Muslim tradition of a congregational prayer reading for her mother after she passed away. Instead she decided to concentrate on one of the five pillars of Islam - to give alms or charity and on her mother's wishes to focus on those who are poor and in need. Rahila spoke to her sister about it for the first time since her mum’s death. She also spoke to a friend who lost her mother about why she decided to organise a prayer gathering in her mother's memory and to an Islamic scholar who says  “khatams” are not really part of Islam

Transcript

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0:00.0

I've got a photo here of mom actually on my phone which I'm going to open up for you.

0:11.7

It's a lovely picture of me with my arm round

0:15.8

mom's shoulders and she's wearing a black sweater with daimante is all

0:21.3

along the collar and we, and we're just posing for a photo.

0:26.5

I mean, she had such a beautiful smile, didn't she?

0:29.8

She's smiling like a Cheshire cat.

0:38.0

When we lose a loved one, all we have left are our memories, either photos like this one, or are cherished recollections.

0:45.0

I'm Rahila Barno when you're listening to the documentary on the BBC World Service.

0:51.0

For this episode of Heart and Soul I'm on a journey to explore how I should

0:57.0

remember my mom after she died. We're a Muslim family and it's traditional for

1:02.4

people to have a Khutum where friends and family

1:05.6

gathering prayer and share food. But my mom was different even though she was devout,

1:12.2

she didn't want this but would it be an Islamic

1:15.5

of mean to not follow tradition

1:25.0

It's a beautiful warm and sunny new street because perfect of new street

1:27.0

chumping station.

1:28.0

If you look here please,

1:29.0

it's a beautiful warm and sunny May day here in Birmingham and I'm meeting my sister

1:38.8

Nabila here in Smallheath Park actually it's probably the third or fourth time I visited Birmingham

1:44.9

after my mom's funeral which was nearly three years ago and the last time we were

1:50.9

actually here as a family Nabila. I don't know if you remember this it was in

1:55.5

1989 and I remember the date because we came to see an amazing performance of the

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