Hear Ye, Hear Me, The Quickest Route to Empathy, And Why Gaslighting is the Anti-Empathy

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5 • 643 Ratings

🗓️ 1 October 2019

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

Tony Overbay, LMFT shares the results of a couple of studies that shed some light on why it can be more difficult, not impossible, for some men to develop empathy and what we all can do to be more empathetic. He then shares examples of how to truly listen to your partner, as well as more gaslighting examples, and tells how those can truly be the anti-empathy!Visit http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com) and sign up to learn more about Tony's upcoming book: He's a Porn Addict, Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions. And you can find out more about Tony's pornography recovery program The Path Back by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com (http://pathbackrecovery.com)The Virtual Couch is sponsored by http://Betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://Betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) Betterhelp.com is the world's leading provider of online therapy. Their mission is to make professional counseling accessible, affordable, and convenient, so anyone who struggles with life's challenges can get help, anytime, anywhere. Head to http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://Betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) for 10% off your first month of services.

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0:00.0	Hey, before we get to the podcast today, one of my favorite things, reading listener email. Here we go.
0:13.8	Dear Tony, exclamation point. First off, I'm a big fan of the podcast. You put the fun and mental health.
0:19.6	All right, I'll get right to the point and I'll be
0:21.0	honest. How about that? I'm one of those who has emailed you in the past to see if you were
0:24.4	accepting new clients. I've never been to therapy and I've honestly felt a connection with you
0:28.4	through my earbuds and you've truly given me so many useful tools. But as my emotional baseline
0:33.1	continues to rise, I now realize a lot of things that I felt I couldn't get over in my life
0:38.3	that I now can. Now I'm to a place where I want to do the work on myself, so I need a therapist.
0:43.3	I never thought I would say that. I figured you were busy, but right about the time you
0:47.3	email me back, they'll let me know that you couldn't fit me in, but P.S., you did it in a very nice way. You also started advertising betterhelp.com. So maybe I'm
0:55.4	being a bit corny, but I sort of viewed that as a sign. So I signed up through your link,
0:59.3	don't worry, betterhelp.com slash virtual couch. So I could get 10% off my first month of service.
1:04.6	And within 48 hours, I was meeting with the therapist online. I love my therapist. She's
1:08.3	amazing. She knows acceptance and commitment therapy. And
1:11.3	P.S. Now I have her listening to the virtual couch. So thank you for the podcast and thank you for
1:15.9	advertising betterhelp.com. I can't imagine where I would be if I hadn't started listening to the
1:19.7	podcast. And if I hadn't started using betterhelp.com, of course, slash virtual couch. Oh,
1:24.5	and I heard you say on the episode with your daughter, and then I think on the one with your neighbors, Nicole and Aisley, that you'd love to get your wife on the podcast. I would
1:30.7	love that too, just putting that out there. All right. Thank you for the email. And yes, I would
1:35.3	love to have her come on to right now, I believe she said that she would consider it somewhere
1:39.1	around our 50th anniversary. And so to put that into perspective when this podcast comes out, we're going to be within a day or two of celebrating our 29th anniversary. So I got a little bit more time to get to get her on. But I would highly encourage you to do what this listener has done. Go check out what over 500,000 people have already done before you. Sign up right now by going to betterhelp.com slash virtual couch and get the help that you need or that you didn't even know that you needed. What are you waiting for?
2:01.8	They have a broad range of expertise in their counselor network which might not be locally available in many areas.
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