I think one of the more challenging aspects of my parenting journey has been when the kids get older

they have decisions to make on their own and they might want me to tell them

the right way but generally they don't. They're just determined to do things their way.

And sometimes all I can do is say, oh, that's interesting. I'm John Fuller joined by Dr. Danny Werta. He's in charge of our parenting

department here at Focus. And let's go ahead and hear a clip with Jim Daly talking to

Matt Jacobson about ways that Matt has learned to show some healthy respect. talking to

show some healthy respect to his kids.

You also urge parents to respect their kids.

Some parents, this is huge because I think this is the relational breaking point when a parent can't develop or chooses not to develop respect.

And there's maybe some good rationalization, right?

Well, if you saw the way my child does not clean his room, does not do these things I expect of him,

you wouldn't respect him either.

So speak to me as that dad with that attitude?

Well absolutely so we like to say relative to the marriage relationship if if a man

isn't respecting his wife he's in the process of destroying his marriage.

And it's in the process of destroying his marriage. And it's absolutely the same with your kids.

If you don't learn to respect your kids, you're actually creating distance.

And I want to tell on myself,

so we had a men's meeting yesterday morning in our church and my

the older sons that are at home attend and we were going around offering

prayer requests but I've got we've got this one son who's pretty stoic doesn't say much of anything

But he's a very loving child, but he's just not very communicative and I turned to him and I said hey Sonny you got something you want to share

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