Hey, this is Leo for actualized.org, and in this video, we're about how to create healthy relationships. What does it really take to be in a healthy relationship?

Now I don't know how much experience you have with healthy relationships or relationships in general, but if you have any relationship

experience, then you probably know that it's very easy for a relationship to go sour.

Why is this?

It's very fascinating to me why this happens and at a very young age even though I didn't have a lot of relationships.

I've actually not been in that many relationships in my life.

But what I recognized is that it just made sense to me inherently that to have a relationship and

to really have it work and have it last for a long time or even a reasonable

on even a year-long relationship.

I'm not even talking about longer, but just even to last a year.

Something has to happen.

Something has to happen and it won't happen spontaneously.

It won't happen spontaneously.

It won't happen spontaneously.

Because what you're doing is you've got one person

who's doing his thing, right, in life, and doing this.

And then you got this other person who's doing her own thing here in life

her doing her thing and then what you're doing if you're creating a healthy relationship

is that you're bringing those two together and almost think of it as a ballet

as a choreographed ballet. And you've got one dancer doing this, spinning this way.

Got another dancing spinning the opposite way.

You bring them close together and you want them to perform

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