As I look back, I also realized that I had actually lowered the bar when it came to the definition of a great marriage at some point in my life.

And, of course, when you lower the bar for a great marriage, it's easier to hit it.

Well, that's a good point, and you're going to hear how this couple's marriage hit rock bottom and how it was saved

on today's episode of Focus on the Family with Jim Daly.

That's the best part, how it was saved.

Today we're going to hear the nitty gritty details of the near death of a marriage from the

point of view of both the husband and the wife.

Pastor Paul Westbrook and his wife, Melody,

were very active in ministry for 20 years

until their marriage hit the wall in the fall of 2014.

And that's the story we're going to share with you today.

Here are Paul and Melody Westbrook speaking at their home church,

and you're going to hear Paul lead off,

and Melody will join in a bit later on on today's episode of Focus on the Family with Jim Daly.

In November of last year, we found ourselves at a point where our marriage hit rock bottom.

I actually was a little self-deceived.

I thought things were going pretty good.

And about a month before that, we'd had what I thought was a really good conversation,

and I thought we were just humming along.

But what I didn't realize was that Melty was carrying some deep hurts and frustrations in her life that were largely

a part of things that I had said and done, just ignorant things that I'm embarrassed and ashamed

of.

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