Healing In The Hoeing Feat. Mandii B

Good Moms Bad Choices

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🗓️ 4 June 2025

⏱️ 95 minutes

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Summary

This week, Erica and Milah are joined by podcaster, friend, and newwwww author, Mandii B!!

The ladies talk about the process and revelations of writing the book “No Holes Barred: A Dual Manifesto of Sexual Exploration and Power” written by Mandii B and WeezyWTF.

The three chat about the unexpected connection between shame and true sexual empowerment, the hidden ways women their worth to male validation, and why the choices you made in the past shape who you're becoming.

You can expect to hear:

Why Mandii believes you can’t talk about sexual liberation without talking about shame
An honest conversation about dating married men and the emotional logic behind it
How childhood shaped Mandii’s views on relationships, money, and emotional survival
The hidden trauma of stealthing and the struggle to name sexual assault
What a sober, celibate era reveals about your relationship with safety and sex
The surprising lessons behind Mandii’s first (and worst) pegging experience
A chaotic but consensual Whorie story you won’t forget (involving pasta and group play)

Support Black Authorsssss!! Pre-order your copy of the book, “No Holes Barred: A Dual Manifesto of Sexual Exploration and Power” written by Mandii B and WeezyWTF.

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CONTENT WARNING:

**At several points in this episode, the conversation touches on experiences of sexual trauma and assault. We encourage you to listen in a way that feels safe for you.**

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