He used our kids against me, so I exposed his food stamp fraud. My ex-husband, Brian, was and is a toxic, controlling narcissist. Classic case. Our divorce was very bitter, but I tried to be fair, splitting custody and giving him a decision-making authority under the assumption that he would be a better

father than he was a husband. Things went well for about a year. I got a new boyfriend who was great

to both me and my kids and wanted to be involved in their life. When Brian found out my new boyfriend,

Tom, was going to be attending my kids' fall festival at school, he went off the deep end.

He abruptly decided he wasn't going to watch the kids while I worked anymore. He also refused to

let my friends or family watch the kids and said he had to meet them first, but then he had

refused to do so and claimed he'd sue me for going against the custody agreement,

since he had decision-making authority on it. If I got a babysitter, he didn't approve.

I lost two days at work scrambling to find any place available, which was difficult because of the

school's location they attend. He began asking the kids to call him every night, which is fine, but if we were eating

or busy doing something and I told him it would have to be later when they call, he had

rage and threatened to sue me again. He began asking me at all times where I was with the kids.

One day I went into work for three hours to clean up some things I missed due to a storm.

I left the kids with Tom, since

waking them up at 4.30 a.m. seemed needless. When Brian found out, he raged and threatened to sue me.

He threatened to apply for child support, even though we split custody. He raged about every little

thing. He didn't bring the kids to the Christmas school play because he knew Tom would be

there. He fought me over medical appointments for the kids and refused to pay his share because

he didn't agree to the appointment. And of course, he'd threatened to sue me. He wouldn't let me have the

kids during his time, even to let them attend birthday parties or sleepovers with friends or family, something

we've been doing for each other with no issues up until that point. This went on for about two

months before I snapped. I hate when parents are willing to hurt their kids over their own egos. He

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