"He Found Out I Went on Another Date… Now He’s Acting Weird"

Seeing Other People

Ilana Dunn

Relationships, Society & Culture, Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Social Sciences, Science

4.5 • 608 Ratings

🗓️ 20 April 2026

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

Jake and I catch up on the abandoned 20-week challenge, our first jobs out of college, and a post-wedding brunch we hosted that actually came together really well. Then we tackle a listener question from someone who accidentally went on a Hinge date with her casual boyfriend's friend's roommate (New York City is a very small village), and help her figure out how to have the exclusivity conversation. We wrap with a round of your dating wins — from five-hour first dates to finally deleting the apps. Don't forget to follow along on Instagram to submit your dating wins!

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0:00.0	We're ready to rock.
0:01.2	Let's do it.
0:02.3	All right, guys, picture this.
0:04.3	It's about 12 minutes ago.
0:06.5	We're sitting in our kitchen table, finishing our blue apron dinner.
0:11.7	We're about to take Berkeley to the park.
0:14.2	Jake picks up his phone, starts watching some movie trailer, and I'm like, what is it?
0:18.8	What is it?
0:19.8	Like, can I watch two? And he ignores me.
0:24.5	So I pick up my phone and I just start scrolling on Instagram and I see a notification. And I look up at
0:31.6	Jake and I go, oh my God. I just want to say, if I did an oh my God with no response for 10 seconds,
0:37.5	it was not 10 seconds. Alana would have been, it was long enough for me to go, if I did this, you would be so mad. Well, yeah, you interrupted me, which is fine. Hold on, but we all have different things that bother us. Okay. And me not knowing is what bothers me. I know. It bothers me too. You went, oh my God.
0:59.1	Because it was a pretty big oh my God moment. We're finishing dinner. We have a whole plan for the night.
1:03.7	We were going to go take Barclay to the P-A-R-K and then you were going to go to the gym.
1:13.0	And I realized we have to record this podcast because it's Thursday night and I am getting on a flight to Los Angeles tomorrow. Yeah. So we did it. We did it. Yeah. That is crazy. So last night I told Alana
1:21.1	to post a question box or something on Instagram. That way we can see today some questions and we'll remember to record
1:29.4	tonight. So I think like really. It works. Thank you, Jake. Hack that system. It's funny.
1:34.6	There's so many other ways to set a reminder like, what's on a calendar invite or like anything else?
1:40.9	Talk about it throughout the day. I mean, earlier today, I had a partnership video to film and I finished and I was like, oh, like, I could record a solo right now. And I was like, no, it's like 2 o'clock. I'm going to record again like a few hours with Jake, so I'm not going to do it. Oh, she thought about it earlier. I thought about it today. I did not think about it. And then I, after that, that was the last time I thought about it. I didn't think about it at all today. But we did it.
2:01.9	We're here.
2:02.8	Well, welcome back to Co-Host for Life.
2:04.5	I'm along. And then I, after that, that was the last time I thought about it. I didn't think about it at all today.
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