He Didn't Say I Love You For 28 Years | Gary John Bishop

The Daily Motivation

Lewis Howes

Self-improvement, Education

4.8 • 963 Ratings

🗓️ 17 July 2026

⏱️ 8 minutes

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Bestselling author Gary John Bishop joins Lewis Howes on The Daily Motivation Show to unpack the moment he realized he had shown love through work ethic instead of vulnerability for nearly three decades. Raised in Glasgow with a mindset of grinding it out over opening up, Bishop shares the exact phone call to his mother at age 40 that broke that pattern for good.

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0:00.0	Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.
0:11.2	It's hard to see a relationship in terms of anything other than you and another person.
0:16.9	When you start to see who you are in it, just take a stop from out and say, who am I here?
0:22.7	Who am I?
0:23.6	Take away all your best efforts and all your positivity and all your justifications.
0:28.2	Take away all that away and just look at it in the cold light of day, say, who am I here?
0:33.1	It's hard to tell yourself I'm judgmental and I'm cynical and I'm that, da, da.
0:40.4	But if you look, you'll see that playing out.
0:43.3	You'll see it playing out right in front of your face.
0:43.5	Wow.
0:48.8	And that paradigm and that way of thinking, my wife never stood a chance.
0:49.4	Wow.
0:50.4	Not a chance. You have no hope against what I'm driven to do. Yeah. Until I saw what I'm driven to do.
0:56.7	What made you wake up and see that? I'd actually started to come in terms with how one of my
1:01.7	endearing traits, if you like, is I'm hard working. Okay, so I will grind at, you know, I'll just
1:09.5	see this thing through, you know.
1:12.2	But what I really struggled with was vulnerability and love.
1:16.6	Like I couldn't love this woman.
1:20.9	Fully.
1:21.5	I couldn't.
1:22.3	All I could do was show her that I cared by working harder.
1:27.2	Right? Like, you'll never have to worry about anything. I'm just going to keep grinding it. show her that I cared by working harder, right?
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