I know some of you are driving around and maybe cannot see the title of today's episode.

It's a sensitive one.

Just a heads up.

Today we feel the question from a listener named Ben, Pastor John, thank you for this podcast.

Beginning as a 10 year old, I became addicted to porn videos.

It was my primary battle for the next seven years.

There have been wonderful victories along the way, but I also know these videos are unrealistic

and perverse.

That design for sex must be a lot different than what I've seen, but what I've seen

is the only model I know.

As I look forward to marriage, I fear that what I watched has already patterned my expectations.

What advice do you have for me?

Is there any hope that I will experience loving, godly, healthy, intimacy and marriage?

And what can I do now to ensure it?

The answer is there is hope for a loving, godly, healthy, intimacy in marriage, if in God's

mercy a cluster of miracles happen in you and in your future wife.

I'm talking about spirit given, subconscious transformation of your instincts, what you

unthinkingly do, and conscious steps you can take together with this woman that you might

fall in love with based on God's word for guarding your relationship from sin and for deepening

and purifying your experience of intimacy.

So yes, there's hope.

This will not be automatic just because you're a Christian.

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