Harvard Psychiatrist: The #1 Shortcut To Getting Rich, Winning At Life, & Finding Your Soulmate

The Iced Coffee Hour

Graham Stephan/Jack Selby

Entrepreneurship, Business

4.4 • 790 Ratings

🗓️ 21 April 2025

⏱️ 164 minutes

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0:00.0	Are you depressed because your brain is messed up and you have a cognitive bias and you're not looking at the world in the right way?
0:05.6	Or are you depressed because your life genuinely sucks?
0:09.2	Growing number of Americans say they suffer with depression.
0:12.4	What's been the most surprising thing for you in terms of problems that you see for successful people or people that make a lot of money?
0:19.0	So what happens with a lot of entrepreneurs is that they assume that happiness is coming
0:22.9	later and then it doesn't.
0:25.0	It's lonely at the top.
0:26.7	Then they seek me out because I can help them with that.
0:29.5	A lot of people wonder whether money buys happiness.
0:33.6	Spirituality starts with satisfying everything else.
0:41.0	I'm a huge fan of becoming materially successful as the first stepping stone to becoming spiritually successful. What do you think we're going to look
0:45.7	back at today as being really destructive? What is society trying to do? They're trying to evoke
0:52.2	unhappiness. And if they evoke unhappiness, what can they do?
0:55.6	Control you. How? By telling you what will make you happy. There we go.
1:03.3	Dr. Kay, thank you so much for coming on the iced coffee hour. Thank you for having me. I love talking to you guys.
1:08.8	Absolutely. Yeah, you're someone we could talk to, no joke for like five hours nonstop. And just, it keeps me. I love talking to you guys. Absolutely. Yeah, you're someone we could talk to, no joke for like five hours nonstop and just, it keeps me so focused on the conversation,
1:17.0	unlike anything else we've done. That is my experience, too, that we can talk for long stretches.
1:22.1	If you were to explain yourself in one minute, how would you do it? I'm someone who spent seven
1:26.9	years studying to become a monk
1:28.2	and then became a psychiatrist instead. And now I take those two bits of training and try to
1:33.6	help other humans with it because most humans don't know how they work. And if you teach a human how
1:38.7	it works, it turns out that life becomes easier and you become better at it. So how many humans are you helping learn?
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