This is the 10% Happier Podcast. I'm Dan Harris.

Hello, my fellow suffering beings, how we doing today?

Many of us, quite justifiably, worry about oversharing.

There's a reason why we use the expression TMI, too much information.

But today you're going to hear a Harvard Business School professor make the case very convincingly, in my opinion, that the real danger is T-L-I, too little information.

There are, she says, steep costs to staying bottled up. It can have all sorts of negative

health implications. Conversely, there are immense benefits to self-disclosure. Even if it's scary,

there are huge benefits, both physiological and

psychological. Of course, then the question is, how do you do it successfully and strategically

without oversharing? And we're going to get into that in a very big way today. We're going to

get super practical for you. My guest is Leslie John. She's the James E. Burke professor of

business administration at the Harvard Business

School. She's got a new book, and it's called Revealing the Underrated Power of Oversharing. In this

conversation, we talk about why self-disclosure can feel risky, but is often extremely

rewarding socially and psychologically. We also talk about psychic and somatic costs of keeping secrets,

how putting feelings into words can reduce both rumination and anxiety, why validation is often

more helpful than advice, why undersharing leads to missed opportunities in relationships, work,

and life, and much more.

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