But I did want to ask you like the complimentary obviously of motherhood, like what the role of the mother, like what you consider the role of the mother is in the family.

Well, the mother kind of sets, well, I said the dad sets the tone, but the mother has to keep the tempo going.

Something that I feel like I've learned the hard way is that my temperament, my kind of disposition

can really affect how everyone else is doing.

So just taking that role seriously of keeping things moving smoothly and being even killed

and knowing that you are kind of everybody's support system

but that that's such a gift you know that you have a crying child they run to you you pick

them up they stop crying that you know ideally yeah ideally it doesn't always happen but

you're like I'm so it's so such a blessing to be able to be your safe place you know I

don't know it's it's a lot of sacrifice,

a lot of patience, but all things we all need to grow in. And I don't really know how I

have a chance to get to heaven without it. So, you know. What's the one thing that you love most

about your wife? Oh, what do I love most about my wife? I think she suffers well,

and I think any great saint, any great Catholic embraces that suffering. And Isabel grew up playing many sports, so I don't know if she got it there. We're trying to figure out how to instill that. In our daughters, obviously with the sons, I can, you know, push them. But with the girls, I do want them to be able to suffer well and push through it because

you might have three crying babies and you're cooking dinner and you're cleaning, you're

doing all this stuff.

And I'm trying to help out, but as we talked about, I'm not there in the home as much.

So being able to embrace the sufferings that come along with being a mother and juggling

that well, that is something that I have just admired in Isabel.

And I'm so thankful to have her as my wife.

And I know your audience probably knows the love languages,

but my number one love language is acts of service.

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