Hey there, Jen here, and this is a happy bit. So I heard a quote recently that I've heard before,

but it reminded me how much I love it, and that is, that which we focus on increases. That which we

focus on increases. So I've noticed a lot of women around me saying things like, oh, I'm crazy busy.

I'm so stressed.

I can barely handle it.

I just wish my kids would X and on and on.

And do you see what's happening there, what we're all prone to doing?

And that is focusing on what's lacking.

And if this quote is correct, which I believe it is, that which we

focus on increases, then we're actually probably making the problem worse. So I believe I've

talked about this before, but our brain has what's called a reticular activating system.

This means your brain takes all that information that you have coming into your

brain every day, things you see, things happening around you, things you hear, and it filters.

And it presents the things to your mind that are most important. The things that actually

help support a belief you might have. For example, if you believe

you always get stopped at a red light, then you're going to find evidence of that. And every time a

red light happens, your brain will say, see, this is true. You're at a red light. But in actuality,

you're probably stopping at just as many green lights, and you're not hitting

any more red lights than anyone else.

See what I mean?

So if you believe, oh, I'm crazy busy, or I can't do this, this is too hard, or if only

my child or my spouse would do X, Y, or Z, you're focusing on the lack and your brain's going to find evidence of that.

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