Hey there, Jen here, and this is a happy bit. In episode 111, I spoke with Maggie Reyes,

all about creating a five-star marriage, being a Ritz-Carlton marriage rather than the

Econological along the freeway. Nothing wrong with Econolage, but you know what I'm saying.

I want the five-star, right? But so often we get stuck in the

murky muck, the swamp of noticing everything that's wrong in the relationship. Oh, well,

I want my spouse to call me and say he loves me, but he never remembers to call. He doesn't even

think of me. And then we get stuck with the flaw. Expectation and reality has a big gap

in between. Maybe you want your spouse to make dinners. You can have a break or to take the kids for

the day so you can have some quiet. We focus on all these things we want. We start to believe that

those behaviors are equated with love. But I want to challenge you to think about it differently.

And instead of thinking and focusing on what you want, to really shift it and apply the platinum

rule, which is, what does my spouse want? What would give my spouse that five-star experience in our

relationship? Whoa, total energy shift,

right? We're shifting from want, want, want and need, need, need to an energy of service,

of empowerment, of being a person with talents, gifts, abilities, and love to share.

What does my spouse want from me?

What would create a five-star experience in our marriage for my spouse?

That is my challenge for you today to write those things down.

And I've analyzed this for myself. And when I read

between the lines and actually get my spouse to verbalize what he wants, I understand that he wants

some peace and quiet, which happens to be exactly what I want a lot of the time with six kids

around all the way, you know, from 17 down to

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