Pushkin

Whenever I get sideswiped by events in life that suck, if I get sick or get a dent in my

car or lose my keys, I try to remember the Stoics, the ancient philosophers who taught

that we shouldn't just surrender to ill fortune.

We should embrace the setbacks of life and feel pride in our ability to cheerfully bounce

back.

But sometimes that isn't so easy, especially when the tragedy that befalls you is the

fault of another person.

When people around us cause us hurt, it's hard not to become fixated on them and they're

active wrongdoing.

We might feel affronted, angry or even betrayed.

We almost certainly will want justice, or that person to pay some price or make amends

for what they've done to us.

But in most situations you'll face at home at school or in the workplace, that justice

usually won't come.

So we can end up carrying the negative emotions.

We ruminate over our injury, we stay angry with the perpetrator, and even risk letting

the situation poison our closest relationships with grudges and feuds.

And if you're thinking that none of this sounds like a recipe for a happier life, then

you're right.

The science unsurprisingly suggests that carrying all these feelings around has a negative

impact on your physical and mental well-being.

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