According to Dana Gresh, rebuilding trust after your spouse sins against you involves a conscious act of the will.

The day you say I do to someone, you are risking everything.

You are putting your trust in that relationship knowing that person is going to hurt you.

So, trust is the gift you choose to give. This is the Revive Our Hearts podcast with Nancy DeMoss Walgamuth, author of Brokenness, The Heart God Revives. It's February 15th, 2023. I'm Bob Lapine.

If you're listening to Revive Our Hearts for the first time this week and wondering,

where's Dana and who's this? I'm Bob Lapine. I am a longtime friend of Revive Our Hearts. I've been on the advisory board for more than 20 years, and I have been sitting in

Dana's chair this week because Dana and her husband, Bob, have been joining us to share about

the most difficult season in their marriage and how God walked them through that season. It

involves the subject of pornography, and as a result of that, you'll want to

decide as a mom, whether you want your younger children around as you listen to this program.

Of course, you can always listen at revive our hearts.com or through the revive our hearts app.

So if later is a better time, you might just want to pause and listen later.

But this has been rich this week as we've been hearing from Bob and Dana about the very real challenge they've experienced in their marriage and about God's very real grace to them.

It has been beautiful for me to see that in Bob and Dana's marriage over the nearly 20 years

that we've known each other now. But you know, there are no quick fixes to these things.

There are no quick turnarounds. It takes time when there has been the exposure of sin in a marriage

or damaging sinful habits that come to light. there's a process. Even after the sin

has been opened up and confessed, brought into the light, there's still a process to move

toward healing and toward rebuilding trust. And even after forgiveness has been sought and granted,

that doesn't mean trust is immediately rebuilt, which is what we're going to talk with Bob

and Dana about today.

And I think a lot of couples can stumble here, Nancy, they can think, well, I forgave him.

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