Happier Parents, Happier Kids Pt 2: Letting Children Try and Fail
The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos
Pushkin Industries
4.7 • 14.6K Ratings
🗓️ 7 November 2022
⏱️ 38 minutes
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Summary
It's tempting to tie a child's shoe lace, tidy their rooms or help with their science projects - to see that these tasks are done right - but parents are depriving their kids of the valuable experience of falling, failing, and f-ing up.
Former Stanford dean Julie Lythcott-Haims says these "f words" are vital for children if they are to grow into happy, capable and autonomous adults. While Yale psychologist Julia Leonard warns that interfering too often in a child's life can actually teach them that trying isn't even worth the effort.
Further reading:
Michaeleen Doucleff - Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy Helpful Humans.
Julie Lythcott-Haims - How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success.
Marty Seligman - Authentic Happiness
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| 0:00.0 | Here in the last archive, I've been trying to figure out what happened to Truth. |
| 0:03.6 | I've been telling stories about how we know what we know, |
| 0:06.4 | and why it seems sometimes lately is if we don't know anything at all. |
| 0:10.6 | But I am done with the problems of Truth. I want solutions. |
| 0:14.8 | The season of the last archive is all about common knowledge. |
| 0:18.8 | Is that kind of knowledge still possible? I tried to find out. |
| 0:22.4 | Coming soon. |
| 0:24.7 | Listen to the last archive on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, |
| 0:28.4 | or wherever you get your podcasts. |
| 0:59.0 | Pushkin. |
| 1:12.8 | I am 100% rooting for young people to live a life unfettered by overhelp. |
| 1:20.5 | This is college educator and mother Julie Lithgott-Hames. |
| 1:23.3 | We are depriving them of the very experiences however mundane. |
| 1:28.8 | They need to have in order to build a life, to build an existence. |
| 1:33.9 | Julie is the author of How to Reason the Doll. |
| 1:36.3 | Break free of the overparenting trap and prepare your kid for success. |
| 1:40.0 | If you listen to part one of this two-part parenting episode, which you really should, |
| 1:44.0 | you'll know that Julie is pretty evangelical about the harms of overparenting. |
| 1:48.0 | But she also gets just how easy it is to do. |
| 1:50.8 | Laurie, I get it a little bit too well. |
| 1:53.8 | I'm this former dean at Stanford seeing a generation of overparented kids, |
| 1:58.4 | air quotes, young adults, and college who realize to migrate shame. |
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