So let's try to again arrive in this moment. When we get to a place that's really special that feels like a destination we've been longing for, whether it's that

isolated spot at a beach where the water is gently lapping and the sun is warm and we can feel ourselves

sinking into the sand or perhaps on a

lying in a hammock in the mountains, a soft breeze,

but what really makes those experiences special and memorable is that when we arrive at those locations we give ourselves permission to truly relax. It's not so much the sights or the sounds or the sensations is the fact that when you get to a place that you treasure, your shoulders begin to settle any resistance to the ground you're sitting on or a chair you're sitting on relaxes.

The breath begins to deepen, your stomach begins to soften. The belly is not held tight. So we can take a nice breath and if you like lift your shoulders up.

And then breathe out through the mouth and drop.

And don't push out the breath, just release it slowly.

And when we breathe in, try not to pull in your breath just allow it in so there's very little

Pulling or pushing it's all

Just happening in the body without any mental or volitional control.

So with the next breath, pull in your belly as you're breathing in, just hold it in.

And as you release the breath, soften the belly,

and just allow yourself to be with a really soft pliant, abdominal muscle muscles.

No need to keep them contracted.

For the third breath, you could squinch the muscles around the eyes, clench the draw, squinch the nose, and then releasing the breath,

unclinching the jaw, soften the micro muscles around the eyes, so etc. And the other part of really arriving in life is when we give ourselves permission to not plan anything for the future,

not worry about anything that's

happened in the past that's not present.

We don't have anywhere to go,

nothing to do, no one to take care of. There's no one right now we have to please.

So there's nothing we have to be concerned about other than our own state of ease.

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