Hey y'all, welcome back to the Dump Mom Alone podcast.

I am your host Heather McFadian and this is the place where I'm going to walk alongside

you and connect you with people and resources so you know that you don't mom alone.

In this episode number 296, it's a mentoring episode y'all.

I am bringing back my friend Lynn Jackson from Connected Families and she has a word for

us to help us deal with lies and anger and live and grace and truth.

So that perfectionism of my goal is to have perfect kids and be a perfect mom is just

a setup for anger and despair and it's actually idolatry.

So the real truth in this that helps us to let go of that chronic anger that just like

never leaves us is it's my job to parent wisely.

My kids job is to learn over time to respond wisely and you just see that that's a process

and it's really is it's a process and I remember years ago reading a book that the illustration

that stuck in my mind was about a carpenter who loved to make little figurines and once

he was done he sort of just put him away and somebody said why don't you display that

and he goes the joy is in the making of it.

That gave me an image in my mind of God has no desire to give us a helicopter ride to

the top of perfectly peaceful parenting mountain where we are wise and calm all the time

with wise and calm children all the time.

He wants to hold our hand through the muck and the yuck and the mountains and the streams

and all the mess in the meantime because that's where we learn how much he loves us unconditionally

and where we learn to trust him.

So he's not so concerned about the end product as he is about us holding his hand on the journey.

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