Well, many of us have either had or know someone who is dealing with a struggling adult child.

In those circumstances, it's so natural for the parent, especially a Christian parent, to say, well, what did I do wrong?

Today we're going to discuss healthy and unhealthy reactions that parents have to that kind of a scenario. I'm John Fuller with Dr. Danny Werta. He heads up our

parenting department and let's go ahead and wrap up a conversation during these

past few episodes we've been hearing from Allison Botky and she's been

describing the struggles that she had with her son Chris who had a severe drug addiction.

Here she is now talking with Jim Daly.

Allison, that old cliche of letting go and let God do his thing with your adult child,

sounds so easy.

It sounds so good, but it's not.

No, it's not.

It's not easy.

It's not easy.

So my son now is a believer and strong believer

and has been free of heroin for 20 some years now,

but has a real challenge with pain meds after being in so many accidents,

so many motorcycle accidents, he's now reaping the, you know, the consequences of a very rough lifestyle.

And for me, I don't, I'm not bailing him out, he's in prison.

I'm not, you know, he's's in prison I'm not you know he's serving time so it's so that surrender is

Trusting that God's gonna bring him around has has been a very positive thing for Chris you know He's exactly where I think God wants him to be he's learned the Bible back and forth he's in a prison fellowship study so he's looking at life in a very different way now but it's taken a long time it's and to

respect you know that he knows now I don't he does he won't ask for money to bail him

out because he knows that's not going to happen. So we've now developed a different connection.

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