Going Through It? Adopt a Real Ritual.
Care and Feeding | Slate's parenting show
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4.4 • 1K Ratings
🗓️ 2 February 2026
⏱️ 47 minutes
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Summary
When we think of rituals, we tend to think of face masks and wellness trends. But there are actually ways to use rituals to help heal grief and deal with stressful times. On this episode, Lucy Lopez, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen are joined by ritual expert Betty Ray to talk about creative ways to help children process grief and big emotions, how to use ritual to create safety and expression, and much more.
Later in the show, they share their Triumphs and Fails. Lucy reveals that her kid is happily trolling a family member, Zak shares a beautiful family ritual, and Elizabeth is in the thick of it medically.
Mentioned in the Episode
Pandora’s Way - A daily ritual app
Podcast production by Cheyna Roth. Video production by Micah Phillips.
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| 0:00.0 | This episode may contain explicit language. |
| 0:07.8 | This is Karen Feeding. |
| 0:09.3 | We're three friends with kids who get together every week to talk life, swap advice, |
| 0:14.1 | and keep each other sane while muddling through this weird and sometimes wonderful thing we call parenting. |
| 0:20.7 | I'm Elizabeth Newkamp. |
| 0:21.9 | I'm the mom to Henry who's 13, Oliver who's 11, and Teddy who's 9, and we live in Honolulu, |
| 0:27.6 | Hawaii. I'm Zach Rosen. I live in Detroit with my family. My daughter, Noah, is 8, and my son |
| 0:34.1 | Ami is 5. I host another show. It's called Weirdly Helpful. |
| 0:38.1 | Hey, I'm Lucy Lopez. I'm Mother to Amelia who's 15, Avery, who's 13, and we live in Miami, Florida. |
| 0:43.9 | We're here to talk about the ups, downs, and everything in between when it comes to parenting. |
| 0:48.8 | Gosh, lately, there's been a lot in between. Every week, we answer your question, share our own parenting triumphs and |
| 0:55.6 | fails, and try to make this feel like the kind of conversation you have with your friends. |
| 1:00.6 | And today, we're talking rituals, specifically grief rituals, things we can do that go beyond |
| 1:06.2 | the basic self-care to deal with the seemingly never-ending onslaught of terrible news and crises we're |
| 1:13.7 | facing right now. If you listen to our Thursday episode, you know we're struggling right now |
| 1:17.7 | with everything going on in Minneapolis and beyond and really with our government in general. |
| 1:23.9 | So we're bringing on a guest, Betty Ray, a ritual creation expert who's going to help us all find ways to cope. |
| 1:31.6 | You won't want to miss it. |
| 1:32.9 | And then we're going to have a little bit of levity and share our triumphs and fails. |
| 1:37.5 | So please stick around. |
| 1:38.6 | We'll be right back. |
| 1:42.4 | All right. |
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