Hi everybody.

This short segment is what we call for the good of the order.

It's something we used to do at the end of my sorority meetings, if you can believe that,

where someone would share something that they came across in the course of the week, a poem, a song lyric, a short story, that they found enormously helpful as they went about daily life.

And I wanted to pick up the thread because I am so often wowed by something I see in the world

that I want to bring back and hand off to you.

So every Friday we produce a short segment called for the good of the order.

Think of it like an audio greeting card, a thing to share with the people that you love around the country

who you don't get to see or talk to enough. A thing to discuss with the people you do see and talk to

on a more regular basis.

This is Kelly Corrigan Wonders for the good of the order. Hi, welcome to Kelly Corrigan Wonders. This is a special episode. It's dedicated to

all the friends we have lost, you and me and every other person who listens.

I have a special place in my heart for people losing their first friend.

Personally, I found it to be a before and after moment.

The loss of a peer, someone you related to in so many ways,

pierces through the tent of safety we live in,

and so often forget is in the end pretty thin.

Five years ago,

in the end pretty thin.

Five years ago today,

Edward and I were dropping off something at a friend's house in Berkeley and as we pulled into the driveway we got the call.

Liz died. We'd just been with her. She was in so much pain. We knew it wouldn't be long and still.

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