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And it's Leah.

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It makes a huge difference for our show, so please do that. Thank you so much. And now let's start the show. Let's get in it. Hey, everybody, it's Nick Layton. And I'm Leah Bonnevar. And we had so many great questions from you all in the wilderness. Ow!

That we have a bonus episode.

So here we go.

Our first question is, quote,

is a glare ever appropriate and within the bounds of etiquette?

I love what I wrote for this one.

I mean, this is a great question.

It's a great question.

Excellent question.

And I just wrote, I really hope so. So my first question is, do we think the person that sent this to us? This was a text message we got. So we don't have any other context other than this. So do we think this person is the glarer or the glaree? I immediately assumed they were the glarer. Oh, okay. They weren't the recipient of a glare. Because if they were the recipient and there are a listener,

I of course want to take their side and be like, how rude. But I immediately assumed that they

were the glaringer. Yeah. Because sometimes how are you supposed to get a point across that someone's

overstepping a boundary without escalating the situation?

That's fair. So Ms. Manor says that glaring is a, quote, questionable technique. And so she does say that it is appropriate in certain circumstances. So like public arenas or concert halls. So she has a great description, which is, quote, in a darkened hall, one person looks back

and gives the glare to a person who has made noise. The eyes widen. A beam of shocked fury goes

forth, and without the lips or the eyebrows of the glare are moving, a zap is sent that freezes

the offender with humiliation. This is an effective weapon, much preferable under the circumstances, to the shush that adds to the

noise it purports to stop, or the withering remark that so often leads to symphonic brawls.

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