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Hacking Your ADHD

Give Yourself Some Slack: Self-Compassion (Part 2)

Hacking Your ADHD

William Curb

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.8702 Ratings

🗓️ 26 October 2020

⏱️ 18 minutes

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Summary

Last week we started our journey of self-compassion.

Self-compassion is key part of cutting ourselves some slack - it's the combination of empathy and action. We're doing the things that'll let us put ourselves at the front of the line when it comes to self-care.

But self-compassion isn't easy.

When we're being self-compassionate we're trying to relate to ourselves in a way that's forgiving, accepting and loving - many of us have grown up with the view that the only way for us to push ourselves forward is by being overly critical of ourselves.

A typical self-compassion practice has three parts:

  1. Observing what is going on right now - that's mindfulness
  2. Actively developing and building a healthier self-perspective (self-kindness)
  3. Connection with others (often called “common humanity”)

In this episode, we'll be going over Self-Kindness and Common Humanity as well as looking at how we can combine all three of the ideas.

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Find the show note at HackingYourADHD.com/selfcompassion2

This Episode's Top Tips

  1. Self-Kindness is about understanding that we have unconditional worth and accepting ourselves even with our short-comings.
  2. One way we can practice self-kindness is by being kind to ourselves with our words - one would that can cause lots of harm is the word "should", which often brings connotations of shame and unworthiness.
  3. Common-Humanity is about connecting with those around us and understand that what we're going through isn't unique. We're all part of the human experience and even when we're feeling alone we can know that there are people who have also gone through what we're going through.
  4. When we put together mindfulness, self-kindness, and common humanity you can create your own practice of self-compassion. When we're being self-compassionate we're able to cut ourselves some slack and learn to be happier with who we are.

Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to Hacking Your ADHD, part of the ADHD Rewired Podcast Network. I'm your host,

0:09.1

William Kerb, and I have ADHD. On this podcast, I dig into the tools, tactics, and best

0:14.7

practices to help you work with your ADHD brain. Last week, we started our journey of

0:20.3

self-compassion.

0:21.5

Self-compassion is a key part of cutting ourselves some slack.

0:24.7

It's a combination of empathy and action.

0:27.7

We're doing the things that will let us put ourselves in front of the line when it comes

0:31.3

to self-care.

0:32.6

But self-compassion isn't easy.

0:34.6

When we're being self-compassionate, we're trying to relate to ourselves in a way that's forgiving, accepting, and loving.

0:41.3

But many of us have grown up with views that the only ways to push ourselves forward is by being overly critical of ourselves.

0:48.0

A typical self-compassion practice has three parts. One, observing what's going on right now. That's mindfulness. Two, actively

0:57.1

developing and building a healthier self-perspective. That's self-kindness. Three, connection with others.

1:04.6

That's often called common humanity. Last week, we went over mindfulness, so here's a quick

1:09.9

refresher before we move on to

1:11.4

self-kindness and common humanity today.

1:14.7

Mindfulness is about identifying those thoughts and feelings that we're having, and that helps

1:18.4

us identify those thoughts that don't align with self-compassion.

1:22.4

Remember, we don't have to believe everything we think.

1:26.0

Mindfulness lets us become aware of those hurtful thoughts and

1:28.7

emotions without blowing up their significance. We can accept our emotions with curiosity and openness

1:34.0

when we feel sad, angry, or hurt. With mindfulness, we still feel our feelings. We're not trying

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