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Girls Night with Stephanie May Wilson

Girls Night #315: What I Wish I Could Go Back and Tell Myself Before Kids

Girls Night with Stephanie May Wilson

Stephanie May Wilson

Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Relationships, Mental Health

4.94K Ratings

🗓️ 17 November 2025

⏱️ 25 minutes

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Summary

This week on Girls Night, we’re doing something a little different — and incredibly special. As my twins turn five (how?!), I’ve been reflecting on everything I wish I could go back and tell myself before becoming a mom. The fears, the hopes, the questions, the emotions — the moments when I looked around and thought, “This is not what I ordered.” So in today’s episode, I’m sharing four letters I wrote to the woman I was before motherhood — the woman who was wondering… 💌 Who will I be after I become a mom? 💌 What will kids do to our marriage? 💌 What if something goes wrong? What if the world is too scary? 💌 What if I mess this up? If you’re planning, trying, pregnant, or simply wondering if you’ll ever feel “ready,” these letters are for you. They’re honest, tender, hopeful, and full of the things I wish someone would have told me years ago. We’ll talk about what actually happens to your identity, how marriage shifts (and strengthens), how to navigate fear in a world that feels overwhelming, and why motherhood isn’t something you download — it’s something you grow into. And if these letters resonate with you, you can get the full series for free at StephanieMayWilson.com/letters — they’re yours to keep or share with a friend who needs them. At the end of the episode, I’ll also share more about Becoming Mama — the course my best friend Kelsey (a brilliant therapist) and I created to help you prepare emotionally, mentally, and practically for this huge transition. It’s the roadmap we wish we’d had, and enrollment is open for just a few more days. Wherever you are on the path to motherhood, friend — you’re not alone. I’m right here with you. Mentioned in this episode: 💛 Love Your Single Life [https://stephaniemaywilson.com/singlelife] 💛 Just Married [https://stephaniemaywilson.com/justmarried] 💛 Becoming Mama [https://stephaniemaywilson.com/becomingmama] 🛒 Stephanie’s Journals & Guides [https://stephaniemaywilsonshop.com/] Stay connected: 📸 Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/smaywilson/] 🌐 Website [https://stephaniemaywilson.com/] 💌 Join the Girls Night Community [https://stephaniemaywilson.com/email] Podcast Sponsors: - Antique Candle Co. - BetterHelp - NIV Application Bible - Piper and Leaf Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

Hi friends, welcome to Girls' Night.

0:06.0

I'm so glad you're here because today's episode is really special.

0:10.0

This season we've been talking about those moments in life when you look around and think,

0:14.0

this is not what I ordered.

0:16.0

There have been so many times for me along the road to motherhood and in motherhood itself

0:21.4

where I've stood there thinking that exact same thing.

0:24.7

The timing, the emotions, trying to get pregnant, the reality of life with twins.

0:30.0

The process didn't always go according to plan or how I imagined it.

0:34.9

But here we are.

0:37.0

And somehow, incredibly, this week, my twins are turning five.

0:42.3

I cannot believe it. So I've been doing a lot of reflecting these days, thinking about what I've

0:47.4

learned, what surprised me, what I wish I could go back and tell myself before stepping into the

0:52.5

season. And a few weeks ago, as a part of that

0:55.7

reflection, I sat down and wrote four letters to the woman I was before becoming a mom. These letters

1:01.6

are for that season between, are we ready and, okay, this is really happening? And if you're there right

1:08.1

now, planning, trying, pregnant, or just wondering if you're ever going to feel ready,

1:13.0

I hope that these words meet you exactly where you are and help you as much as I know they would have helped me.

1:19.4

If you actually want to get physical copies of these letters, you can.

1:23.3

I put them into a free email series.

1:25.9

You can read them, share them with a friend,

1:27.9

and you can get your copies at Stephaniemaywilson.com slash letters.

1:32.2

Okay, you ready?

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